Foreword:

I think its important to note WHY someone might want to make comments on your food / weight before getting into the responses. 1. They are just in it for the gossip. 2. They are trying to make small talk & have zero awareness about how they affect others. 3. They want to lose weight. You can spot which one someone is a mile away! My responses cover all, I think we can relate to person 3 & we really do not want to spread harm by claiming to be on a juice cleanse or something so YOU DO NOT HAVE TO DISCLOSE ANYTHING but you also don't want to lie - response 1 in the video is perfect for this.

Introduction:

"The Comments" is something that comes up A LOT in session so I wanted to chat about dealing with comments about our food choices and body changes. It's tough enough managing our own journeys without having to field unsolicited opinions from others, right? So, I thought I'd share some responses you can forward my shorts at the links below or reframe into your own words.

Why Boundaries Matter

Setting boundaries is so important for our mental and emotional well-being. It helps us keep control over our personal journey and shields us from the negative impact of those unsolicited comments. Remember, your body and your relationship with food are personal, and you get to decide who gets to talk about it.

1. The Soft Boundary

Sometimes, you just want to gently let people know that their comments aren't helpful. Here’s a way to do that while also highlighting that you're journey is completely unique to you - and not up for conversation.

Response: “I appreciate your questions. I’m working closely with a counsellor +/- a dietitian, and ironically, the thing that’s helping me the most is not talking about it.”

This way, you're acknowledging their interest but making it clear that you’re keeping this part of your journey private.

2. The Medium Boundary

Now, if someone just won’t stop with their comments, it’s time to be a bit more direct. This response sets a clear expectation and lets them know you’re serious.

Response: “If you continue to comment on my food and body, I will change the conversation to a more relevant one / stop coming to Sunday lunch here / walk away"

It’s straightforward and lets them know you’re willing to take action if they do not stop.

3. The Hard Boundary

OK so I do make this suggestion when working with clients because usually we get a pretty good giggle out of it & imagine together a scenario in the office / family Christmas dinner if this was actually said. I mean use with your own discretion, but god even if its only said in your head not out load... it feels good right?!

Watch the video here:

Access shorts here:

Option 1

Option 2

Option 3

We will be talking about the comments over in the PRIVATE Facebook group this week. Come say hi and follow along for more tried & tested responses from those with lived experience: